How a geek gets girls:
What I discovered works online and in person…
When I was involuntarily single, I had the same frustrations you may have right now:
You may like this one special girl, and you wish she’d be your girlfriend.
Maybe you don’t know how to start a conversation with her, or you may be friends already – but secretly, you want her.
This is the story of my first crush.
She was in my class and I’ll never forget her name:
“Maria.”
What’s the name of the woman you’re thinking of right now?
You know EXACTLY how it feels.
She’s not just a name anymore; she’s become an emotion. And for me, that emotion was too much to bear. I had to tell her how I felt.
But how?
We’d been close friends for years.
And I wasn’t sure how to explain that I wanted to be her boyfriend.
So I came up with this:
I bought roses to give her on Valentine’s Day to express my feelings.
But I couldn’t go through with it. I was thinking about everything that could go wrong. I imagined how my classmates would make fun of me.
I was too afraid to make a move.
But it wasn’t just Maria:
For years, I was seen as 'just a friend'
by every woman I wanted...
For years, I was seen as 'just a friend' by every woman I wanted...
Don’t let this smile fool you. Back in 2005, when I was still a virgin.
I could’ve been so much more than just a friend.
I’d have done everything for the girl I liked. I’d have always replied to her messages. Listened to her for hours on the phone in the middle of the night… even if it was about the last guy that broke her heart.
Maybe you’re also tired of seeing the kind of woman you want dating selfish a$$holes?
You know exactly who I’m talking about:
We all know that type of guy… lucky bast*rds.
The guy that gets the kind of woman you want, without having to chase her. Women seem to be magically attracted to him.
But why?
In fact, I never understood why women say one thing but mean another.
Why are women so complicated anyway?
She says: “Just be yourself.”
But when you are yourself, she doesn’t want you.
Then she asks: “Why can’t I just find a nice guy like you?”
While she’s dating a$$holes.
And I always thought: “Hello? I’m right here! Why can’t you see that I’m the perfect guy for you?!”
But when you ask her out, she says: “I don’t want to risk losing our friendship.”
Even if I got lucky and went on a date:
Women stopped talking to me the very next day…
Why me? What did I do?
Even if I got lucky and went on a date: Women stopped talking to me the very next day… Why me? What did I do?
Whenever I went on a date, women would thank me for it, but when I texted the next day, they didn’t reply.
And on the rare occasion that a woman would respond, this was the type of message I got:
If you’re familiar with this, keep reading…
I felt so frustrated and angry.
I’d invest so much time and money to go on a date with someone who’d stop replying without even telling me why. It made no f*cking sense. I felt like less of a man.
I was determined to do whatever it takes to get a girlfriend, so…
I tried everything...
Everybody said, “just be yourself” and “be more confident.”
But how?
Maybe you thought about trying the same things I did:
- Workout to lose weight/build muscle, so women could see me as a strong man (but deep down, I still didn’t feel confident enough)...
- Dress better, get a nice haircut, and buy a BMW to impress women (but feeling like an imposter because I wasn’t rich)...
- Get drunk to be able to talk to beautiful women in bars and nightclubs...
- Be a nice guy (doing favors for women hoping they’ll like me in return)...
- Hiring a professional photographer (that I could barely afford) just so I could have a chance at online dating...
- Pretending to have an amazing lifestyle by posting my holiday pics (we both know it happens only 2 weeks a year, at the most)...
But to be honest:
Not one single thing worked...
… I still couldn’t get the women I wanted to like me.
However, I didn’t want to give up so I started doing the following…
First:
- I read over 414 books on social intelligence, psychology, and communication, on Kindle alone. At one point my credit card got banned from Amazon because of suspicious behavior. To be clear I didn’t finish all the books like marketing liars say they do. What matters is I used every book to find the specific information I needed and skipped the useless chapters...
I thought studying social intelligence, psychology, and communication would make it easy for me to get a girlfriend.
- I took three loans (totaling €19,609.87) just so I could attend self-help seminars...
Loans helped me pay for various self-help seminars. And I didn’t even tell my family and friends that I borrowed money to attend self-help seminars to help me with women, because I was too ashamed.
Second:
- For 3 months, I practiced talking to women in everyday situations (in cafés, on the bus, in stores, etc.) based on what I’d learned from the self-help seminars and books that I studied...
- On the weekends, I went clubbing ALONE, despite hating nightclubs. Just so I could talk to women without being distracted by my friends...
I was OBSESSED.
There was nothing else for me.
I wanted to master meeting women in every possible situation.
But I still felt miserable:
None of what I tried worked very well for me.
It was all very hit and miss.
Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn’t.
And it just didn’t feel right.
I was about to give up hope
when something unexpected happened...
I was about to give up hope when something unexpected happened...
I tried things that were totally counterintuitive.
Instead of listening to what everybody said:
I used my background in financial engineering.
The knowledge that qualified me to work for Germany’s ‘Wall Street’ helped me uncover what really works with women.
Trading taught me that the number one mistake 95% of traders make is they let their emotions take over during important investment decisions.
If people aren’t objective enough and make mistakes when it comes to money, imagine how MUCH LESS objective they are when it comes to dating.
This was my eureka moment:
What if a vast majority of men fail because they can’t make objective decisions when it comes to their dating lives?
It’s not their fault they have a crush or are in love.
We’ve all known someone who was BLINDLY in love, right?
According to Warren Buffet – the most successful investor in the world with a net worth of 143 billion dollars – the #1 reason why investors lose money is because their emotions blind them to make smart financial decisions. Fun fact: The same applies to dating… most men fail with women because they aren’t objective enough in their dating life. A man can’t solve a logical problem with an emotional decision.
I never thought of using my analytical skills and my ‘ice-cold’ cultural background for dating before:
I’m a certified financial engineer…
I’m very analytical and logical…
I’m German…
I’m the opposite of romance and seduction.
And even though my dating life suffered for years, I turned my weakness into my strength:
For 14 months, I spent at least 5 hours a day (more on weekends) talking to women in public.
I skipped my uni classes, had no job, and lived off the money I got from scholarships and loans.
I’ve been able to coldly analyze hundreds of interactions to find the most recurring patterns.
I realized the mistakes most men make, why they repel women, and what exactly a man must say and do instead.
My clients are living proof of this and they’re the true heroes. I showed them the path but they mustered the courage to take action to achieve their dating goals.
To see what my clients and their new wives say about me: click here.
But I’m getting ahead of myself.
Let’s step back to the time when I daily talked to women and kept track of what I learned in my journal.
After 14 months of trial and error, my friends were getting impressed by my results.
I could finally get women to say “yes” to me consistently when I’d ask them out.
And it wasn’t just a fake yes anymore; they really, deeply, and absolutely wanted to go out with me.
I’d receive messages like this constantly:
She can’t wait to see me and show me her new Stewardess Uniform.
One day I woke up and realized:
Women were now chasing me. It became my new life.
And my friends started asking me how I did it...
One day I woke up and realized: Women were now chasing me. It became my new life. And my friends started asking me how I did it...
Women started noticing me WITHOUT saying a word…
All kinds of women…
From stewardesses to lawyers to massage therapists…
I was finally able to attract beautiful women almost anywhere and anytime.
In fact, women started to call me the Dating Engineer, whenever I talked about dating.
For example:
I’ve discovered a unique first message that makes almost any woman interested in you.
Don’t just take my word for it, simply try it:
Click here, and you’ll be forwarded to a page where you can receive your copy of the ready-to-use Conversation Starter Template containing the message.
This message alone will make you stand out from other guys who are trying to get her attention.
I still remember this story:
This model-looking woman first mocked me when I told her I'd figured out women. But of course, she was speechless after we had sex at my place...
Afterwards:
Valerie asked me about why I understand women so well.
So I told her everything I’ve been through.
She was impressed.
All of a sudden, Valerie mentioned her cousin, a nice guy who had a crush on a co-worker. She asked if I could just give him some tips.
I agreed since I was in the same position not so long ago.
I texted him exactly what to say and do the next time he sees her.
A week later, he asked her out and she said yes!
Valerie was so happy for him that she told me I should make a career out of it.
I thought it was a stupid idea at first:
But after seeing me go on dates with attractive women, my best friend begged me to show him how to do the same.
So I summarized my notes from all these months of trial and error and turned my discoveries into efficient step-by-step systems that help you attract and keep the woman you want.
I called it Efficient Dating Systems made in Germany…
You’ll achieve your dating goals much faster than compared to other guys… once you’re correctly using the very first Efficient Dating Systems made in Germany.
Some coaches will probably copy my methods later on.
I always like to buy from the original, but it’s up to you. I’m sure you can find cheaper coaches as well. But I only care about efficiency.
And efficiency has a price, right?
My grandfather Ben always told me it’s better to buy the original Volkswagen Beetle at full price than it is to buy a cheap copy and then pay for constant repairs.
You may save a bit of money today, but it will cost you stress, time, and a lot more money tomorrow.
But where was I?
Ah yeah…
So I shared my discoveries with my best friend Phong.
Phong was so happy to finally go on dates with women he actually liked.
In fact, he was so happy he offered to pay me for all my help.
It worked not just for me but also for my best friend, Phong. He started getting the same results once I showed him exactly what to do: He messaged me, saying he feels he automatically attracts women when talking to them… and that he is surprised that women started checking him out.
Once it worked for my best friend, I started to share my Efficient Dating Systems with smart, single men all around the world.
I’ve been coaching clients in person for over 10 years.
And for eight years…
I had no website, no YouTube channel, or any other online presence. The only way for me to make a living was if clients referred other guys to me.
So I made sure my teachings get clients the long-term results they’re looking for.
Timo used what I taught him… and went from being a shy guy with crippling approach anxiety to regularly getting phone numbers and lining up dates.
What worked for Timo back then will also work for you today:
Because Dating Patterns stay the same for the most part.
For years, many of my clients tried to convince me to make my knowledge accessible to the public.
But I never had the time to do it because I was too busy with in-person coaching.
Then the coronavirus pandemic hit and while it was a shock at first, I saw it as an opportunity to finally make my knowledge available to as many smart, single men as possible.
Covid and my clients inspired me to finally share my discoveries outside my private practice.
So why am I sharing my Efficient Dating Systems
made in Germany with you?
So why am I sharing my Efficient Dating Systems made in Germany with you?
I have a confession to make:
When I was a kid, my English teacher always called me a loser for struggling in her class. And because of that I started to seek approval not just from her but from any woman.
So every time I was rejected, I felt like a total failure.
I wish I had a time machine to share all my discoveries with my younger self… without spending a decade being rejected to figure out what really works.
If I have a son, I’ll teach him my Efficient Dating Systems to spare him the pain and frustrations I experienced.
Sadly, time travel doesn’t exist, and I don’t have a son.
But I can still help other men avoid the pain I felt.
I wish someone had helped me properly when I was trying to find a girlfriend.
That’s why I love the feeling of clients telling me about their success stories after using my systems.
It feels great to make a living by changing a man’s life for the better:
My client Ken met an attractive woman using my Efficient Dating Systems while on holiday. He couldn’t wait to tell me about it.
You won’t see me wearing a Rolex, driving a Lamborghini, or in a YouTube video with a bunch of beautiful women next to me (all paid actresses, of course).
That’s because I’m a regular guy, just like you.
Helping men gives me more than enough satisfaction and I’m not looking to make millions.
Your success is my job and a German takes his job very seriously.
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Your Efficient Dating Advisor,
Herman The German
