“How a geek gets girls:”
What I discovered works online and in person…
When I was single, I had the same frustrations you may have right now:
You may like this one special girl, and you wish she’d be your girlfriend.
Maybe you don’t know how to start a conversation with her, or you may be friends already – but secretly, you want her.
This is the story of my first crush.
She was in my class and I’ll never forget her name:
“Maria.”
What’s the name of the woman you’re thinking of right now?
You know EXACTLY how it feels.
She’s not just a name anymore; she’s become an emotion. And for me, that emotion was too much to bear. I had to tell her how I felt.
But how?
We’d been close friends for years.
And I wasn’t sure how to explain that I wanted to be her boyfriend.
So I came up with this:
I bought roses to give her on Valentine’s Day to express my feelings.
But I couldn’t go through with it. I was thinking about everything that could go wrong – imagining how my classmates would make fun of me.
I was too afraid to make a move.
But it wasn’t just Maria:
For years, I was seen as 'just a friend'
by every woman I wanted...
For years, I was seen as
'just a friend' by every
woman I wanted...
Don’t let this smile fool you. That’s me back in 2005, when I was still a virgin.
I could’ve been so much more than just a friend.
I’d have done everything for the girl I liked. I’d have always replied to her messages… and listened to her for hours on the phone in the middle of the night – even if it was about the last guy who broke her heart.
Maybe you’re also tired of seeing the kind of woman you want dating selfish a$$holes?
You know exactly who I’m talking about:
We all know that type of guy… lucky bast*rd!
The guy who gets the kind of woman you want, without having to chase her. Women seem to be magically attracted to him.
But why?
In fact, I never understood why women say one thing but mean another.
Why are women so complicated anyway?
Women told me: “Just be yourself.”
But when I was “just being myself,” they didn’t want me.
Then they said: “Why can’t I just find a nice guy like you?”
While they were dating ugly, dumb jerks.
I always thought: “Hello? I’m right here! Why can’t you see that I’m the perfect guy for you?!”
And when I finally had the balls to ask women out, most of them said: “I don’t want to risk losing our friendship.”
Even when I got lucky and went on a date:
Women stopped talking to me the very next day…
Why me? What did I do?
Even when I got lucky and went on a date: Women stopped
talking to me the very next day…
Why me? What did I do?
Whenever I went on a date, women would thank me… but when I texted the next day, they didn’t reply.
And on the rare occasion that a woman would respond, this was the type of message I got:
If you’re familiar with this, keep reading…
I felt so frustrated and angry.
I’d invest so much time and money to go on a date with someone who’d stop replying without even telling me why. It made no f*cking sense. I felt like less of a man.
This made me reach a point where I was so desperate to learn how to get a proper date with a woman that I made a decision to just finally figure it out for myself.
I tried everything...
Everybody said, “Just be yourself” and “Be more confident.”
But how?
Maybe you thought about trying the same things I did:
- Workout to lose weight/build muscle, so women could see me as a strong (but deep down, I still didn’t feel confident enough)...
- Dress better, get a nice haircut, and buy a BMW to impress women (but feeling like an imposter because I wasn’t rich)...
- Get drunk to be able to talk to beautiful women in bars and nightclubs...
- Be a 'nice guy' (buying women gifts, inviting them to nice dinners, and doing anything they asked me to do)...
- Hiring a professional photographer (that I could barely afford) so that I could have a chance at online dating...
- Pretending to have an amazing lifestyle by posting my holiday pics (we both know it happens once a year, at the most)...
- Armed with flowers... I even tried to convince one female friend with logic and reason why she should date me...
But to be honest:
Not one single thing worked...
… I still couldn’t get attractive women to like me.
However, I didn’t want to give up, so I started doing the following…
First:
- I watched countless YouTube videos about meeting women and getting dates...
- I read over 414 books on social intelligence, psychology, and communication, on Kindle alone. To be clear, I didn’t finish all the books like marketing liars say they do. What matters is I used every book to find the specific information I needed and skipped the useless chapters...
I thought mastering social skills would make it easy for me to get a girlfriend.
- I spent €19,609.87 on self-help seminars, coaching, and various audio/video courses – Yes, I checked my bank statements for the exact amount…
Second:
- I talked to women in everyday situations (in cafés, on the bus, in stores, etc.) to test the material I'd studied...
- On the weekends, I went clubbing ALONE, despite hating nightclubs. Just so that I could talk to women without being distracted by my friends...
I was OBSESSED.
There was nothing else for me.
I wanted to master meeting women in every possible situation.
But I still felt miserable:
None of what I tried worked very well for me.
It was all very hit-and-miss.
Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn’t.
And it just didn’t feel right.
I was about to give up hope
when something unexpected happened...
I was about to give up hope when something unexpected happened...
I tried something that was totally counterintuitive.
And to my surprise, it worked:
I used my background as a Frankfurt-trained financial engineer to optimize my dating life.
The pattern-recognition skills that qualified me to work for Germany’s ‘Wall Street’ helped me uncover what really works with women and dating.
Trading taught me that the number one mistake 95% of traders and investors make is that they let their emotions take over during important investment decisions.
If people aren’t objective enough and make mistakes when it comes to money, imagine how MUCH LESS objective they are when it comes to dating.
This was my eureka moment and made me realize two things:
1: What if the dating advice I received from others was just too subjective and vague to consistently work – especially for an analytical guy like me?
And more importantly…
2: What if a vast majority of men fail because they can’t make objective decisions when it comes to their dating lives?
It’s not their fault they have a crush or are in love.
We’ve all known someone who was BLINDLY in love, right?
According to Warren Buffet – the most successful investor in the world with a net worth of 143 billion dollars – the #1 reason why investors lose money is that their emotions blind them to make smart financial decisions. Fun fact: The same applies to dating… most men fail with women because they aren’t objective enough in their dating lives.
“A man can’t solve a logical problem with an emotional decision.”
– Herman’s Rule #1
I never thought of using my analytical skills and my ‘ice-cold’ cultural background for dating before:
I’m a certified financial engineer…
I’m very analytical and logical…
I’m German…
So I’m the complete opposite of sensitivity, seduction and romance.
People might say it’s a weakness in dating, but it turned out to be my biggest strength:
For 14 months, I spent at least 5 hours a day (more on weekends) approaching women in Düsseldorf and Cologne.
I skipped my postgraduate classes, quit my job, and lived off a scholarship and my savings.
I’ve been able to coldly analyze the raw dating data I collected… and identify the most recurring patterns.
That’s how I discovered which patterns I need to follow to get dates and which ones I need to break to avoid rejection:
My clients are living proof of this, and they’re the true heroes behind my methods. I showed them the path, but they mustered the courage to take action to achieve their dating goals.
If you’d like to see what my clients and their new wives say about me and my data-driven discoveries, follow this link: Herman’s Hall of Fame.
But I’m getting ahead of myself.
Let’s step back to the time when I daily approached women and documented the patterns I identified in my journal.
After 14 months of trial and error…
I couldn’t believe it at first that I finally found something that actually worked.
One day, I approached this gorgeous blonde who was among the hottest women I had ever spoken to… and she agreed to go on a date with me 5 minutes into our conversation.
I was baffled. And thought that it was just a fluke.
So I went out the next couple of days to approach different women… and I repeated exactly step-by-step what had worked on the gorgeous blonde.
Only then did I realize that it wasn’t a fluke. I could finally get women to say “yes” to me consistently when I’d ask them out.
And it wasn’t just a fake yes anymore; they really, deeply, and absolutely wanted to go out with me.
I’d receive messages like this constantly:
She can’t wait to see me and show me her new Stewardess Uniform.
One day, I woke up and realized:
Women were now chasing me. It became my new life.
And my friends started asking me how I did it...
One day, I woke up and realized: Women were now chasing me. It became my new life. And my friends started asking me how
I did it...
Women started noticing me WITHOUT saying a word…
All kinds of women…
From stewardesses to lawyers to massage therapists…
I was finally able to attract beautiful women almost anywhere and anytime.
In fact, women started to call me the Dating Engineer whenever I talked about dating.
For example:
I’ve discovered 5 hidden psychological triggers every opening line needs to spark attraction.
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I still remember this story:
This model-looking woman first mocked me when I told her I'd figured out women. But of course, she was speechless after we had sex at my place...
Afterwards:
Valerie asked me about why I understand women so well.
So I told her everything I’ve been through.
She was impressed.
Then Valerie mentioned her cousin, a ‘nice guy’ who had a crush on a co-worker. She asked if I could just give him some tips.
I agreed since I was in the same position not so long ago.
I texted him exactly what to say and do the next time he sees his crush.
A week later, he asked her out and she said yes!
Valerie was so happy for him that she told me I should make a career out of it.
I thought it was a stupid idea at first:
But after seeing me go on dates with attractive women, my best friend also asked me to show him how to do the same.
So I summarized my records from all these months of trial and error… and turned my data-driven dating discoveries into step-by-step systems that help you attract and keep the woman you want.
Efficient Dating Systems made in Germany.
once you’re correctly using the very first
Efficient Dating Systems made in Germany.
Some coaches will probably copy my methods later on.
I always prefer to buy from the original, but it’s up to you. I’m sure you can find cheaper coaches as well. But I only care about efficiency.
And efficiency has a price, right?
My grandfather Ben always told me it’s better to buy the original Volkswagen Beetle (iconic German car) at full price than it is to buy a cheap copy and then pay for constant repairs.
You may save a bit of money today… but it will cost you stress, time, and a lot more money tomorrow.
But where was I?
Ah yeah…
So I shared my discoveries with my best friend Phong.
He was so happy to finally go on dates with women he liked that he offered to pay me for all my help:
It worked not just for me but also for my best friend, Phong. He started getting the same results once I showed him exactly what to do: He messaged me, saying he feels that he automatically attracts women when talking to them… and how surprised he is that women started checking him out.
Once it worked for my best friend…
He, Valerie, and some others finally convinced me to give dating coaching a shot:
So I started posting my data-driven insights on various dating advice forums for men.
Funny enough, I got banned from Germany’s #1 dating advice forum for my “controversial views.”
A classic case of:
“Data may disappoint, but it never lies.”
– Jay Samit (A leading expert on disruption, innovation, and opportunity… who has advised visionaries such as Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Steven Spielberg, and Richard Branson.)
However…
On one of the English-speaking forums… a prominent dating coach noticed my posts, recognized my potential, and took me under his wing.
That’s how I began sharing my Efficient Dating Systems with smart, single men all around the world.
The other coach and I parted ways shortly thereafter… because we had opposing teaching philosophies.
But I’ll be forever grateful to him for giving me a leg up in the beginning of my coaching career…
I’ve been coaching for over a decade.
And for the first eight years…
I had no website, no YouTube channel, or any other online presence.
The only way for me to make a living with coaching was if my clients referred other guys to me.
Creating a sink or swim situation… which forced me to optimize my teaching skills and deliver long-lasting results.
In my opinion… a rite of passage that every coach should go through – before being allowed to advertise online.
My client Timo transformed, within two days, from shy guy with crippling approach anxiety to confident man who consistently gets phone numbers and lines up dates.
What worked for Timo in the past will also work for you today:
Dating Patterns stay the same for the most part – They follow Lindy’s Law… because they are based on biological reality rather than passing social fads.
For years, many of my clients tried to convince me to make my Efficient Dating Systems accessible to the wider public.
But I never had the time to do it because I was too busy with in-person coaching.
Then the coronavirus pandemic hit:
It was a shock at first…
But then I saw it as an opportunity to finally launch my website and share my data-driven discoveries with as many smart, single men as possible.
COVID and my clients pushed me to finally launch my website… and share my data-driven dating discoveries with the wider public.
So why am I sharing my Efficient Dating Systems
with you?
So why am I sharing my
Efficient Dating Systems
with you?
I have a confession to make:
When I was a kid, my English teacher always called me a loser for struggling in her class. And because of that, I started to seek approval not just from her but from any woman.
So every time I was rejected, I felt like a total failure.
I wish I had a time machine to share all my discoveries with my younger self – without spending a decade being rejected to discover what really works.
If I have a son, I’ll teach him my Efficient Dating Systems to spare him the pain and frustrations I experienced.
Sadly, time travel doesn’t exist. And I don’t have a son yet.
But I can still help other men avoid the mistakes I made.
I love the rewarding feeling of my clients telling me about their success stories after using my systems.
It feels great to make a living by changing a man’s life for the better:
My client Ken met an attractive woman using my Efficient Dating Systems while on holiday. He couldn’t wait to tell me about it.
As a constant learner, I’m always striving to optimize my teaching methodology.
To this day, I continue to discover new principles and techniques…
… for example, when I use a hidden microphone to analyze my clients’ approaches and dates so that I can give them proper feedback. And after doing this for over a decade, I’ve studied 1000+ hours of interactions my clients had with women:
A screenshot from raw footage of a never-released documentary: me listening in on a client’s approach in Amsterdam via hidden microphone. The camera team captured this moment during one of our coaching sessions.
You won’t see me wearing a Rolex… driving a Lamborghini… or in a YouTube video with a bunch of beautiful women next to me (all paid actresses, of course).
That’s because I’m a regular guy, just like you.
Helping men gives me more than enough satisfaction. And I’m not looking for fame or chasing millions – distractions from my actual work.
Your success is my job, and a German takes his job very seriously. 😐💼
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Your Efficient Dating Advisor,
Herman The German
