How a geek gets girls
What I discovered attracts women online and in real life…
Guten Tag (Good Day),
I’m B. Herman Mustermann.
But my friends call me Herman The German…
When I was single, I had the same frustrations you may have right now…
You may like this one special girl and you wish she’d be your girlfriend.
Maybe you don’t know how to start a conversation with her or you may be friends already. But secretly, you love her.
This is the story of my first crush.
She was in my class and I’ll never forget her name: Maria…
What’s the name of the girl you’re thinking of right now?
You know EXACTLY how it feels.
She’s not just a name anymore; she’s become an emotion. And for me, that emotion was too much to bear. I had to tell her I loved her.
But how?
We’d been close friends for years.
But secretly, I wanted to be her boyfriend.
I wanted to tell her how I felt so I bought roses to impress her on Valentine’s day. But when the time came, I couldn’t get a single word out of my mouth. I was thinking about everything that could go wrong…
Imagining how my classmates would make fun of me.
I was too afraid to make a move, despite all my love and admiration for her.
But it wasn’t just Maria:
For years, I was seen as 'just a friend'
by every girl I liked...
For years, I was seen as 'just a friend' by every girl I liked...
Don’t let this smile fool you. Back in 2005… when I was still a virgin…
I could’ve been so much more than just a friend.
I’d really do everything for the girl I liked. I’d always reply to her messages… listen to her for hours on the phone in the middle of the night… even if it was about the last guy that broke her heart…
Maybe you’re also tired of seeing her dating this selfish a**hole?
You know exactly who I’m talking about… we all know one… lucky bast*rd.
The guy who gets all the girls you want, without having to chase them… all the girls seem to be magically attracted to him.
But why?
In fact, I never understood why women says one thing but mean another.
Why are women so complicated anyway?
She says: “JUST BE YOURSELF.”
But when you are yourself, she doesn’t want you…
Then she asks: “Why can’t I just find a nice guy like you?”
While she’s dating a**holes.
And I always thought: “Hello? I’m right here! Why can’t you see that I’m the perfect guy for you?!”
But when you ask her out, she says: “I don’t want to risk losing our friendship.”
Even if I got lucky and went on a date...
Women stopped talking to me the very next day…
Why me? What did I do?
Even if I got lucky and went on a date... Women stopped talking to me the very next day… Why me? What did I do?
Whenever I went on a date, she’d thank me for it but when I’d text the next day, she wouldn’t reply.
And on the rare occasion that she would, it would say…
If you’re familiar with this, keep reading…
I felt so frustrated and angry.
I’d invest so much time and money to go on a date with someone who’d stop replying without even telling me why. It made no f*cking sense. I felt like less of a man…
I was determined to do anything to get a girlfriend, so…
I tried everything...
Everybody said, “just be yourself” and “be more confident”…
But how?
Maybe you thought about trying the same things I did:
- Workout to lose weight/build muscle, so she could see me as a strong man (but deep down, I still didn’t feel confident enough)
- Dress better, get a nice haircut, and buy a BMW to impress her (but feeling like a fake because I wasn’t rich)
- Get drunk to be able to talk to beautiful women in the club
- Be a nice guy (doing favors for her hoping she’ll like me in return)
- Hiring a professional photographer (that I could barely afford) just so I could have a chance at online dating
- Pretending to have an amazing lifestyle by posting my holiday pics (we both know it happens only 4 weeks a year, at the most)
But to be honest…
Not one single thing worked...
… I still couldn’t get a girl to like me and I couldn’t even get any responses online.
However, I didn’t want to give up so I started doing the following…
First:
- I read over 414 books on social intelligence, psychology, and communication... on Kindle alone. At one point my credit card got banned from Amazon because of suspicious behavior… to be clear I didn’t finish all the books like marketing liars say they do… what matters is I used every book to find the specific information I needed and skipped the useless chapters
I was obsessed with Social Intelligence, Psychology, and Communication. I thought this knowledge would make it easy for me to attract & keep a girlfriend…
- I took three loans (totaling €19,609.87) just so I could attend many self-help seminars. I didn’t even tell my family and friends about it because I was ashamed
Second:
- I went out for 3 months just to practice talking to women (in cafés, on the bus, and in stores, etc.) based on what I’d learned from self-help seminars and books
- One the weekends, I went clubbing ALONE just so I could talk to women without being distracted by my friends
I was OBSESSED…
like there was nothing else for me…
I wanted to master meeting women in every possible situation.
But I still felt miserable.
Especially when I couldn’t even say “Hello” to a girl because I thought she was out of my league…
Despite putting in so much time, money, and effort I got zero results…
I was about to give up hope
when something unexpected happened...
I was about to give up hope when something unexpected happened...
I tried things that were totally counter-intuitive…
Instead of listening to what everybody says…
I used my background in financial engineering.
The knowledge that qualified me to work for Germany’s ‘Wall Street’ helped me uncover what really works with women…
Trading taught me that the number one mistake 95% of traders make is they let their emotions take over during important investment decisions.
If people aren’t objective enough and make mistakes when it comes to money, imagine how MUCH LESS objective they are when it comes to dating.
This was my eureka moment:
What if a vast majority of men fail because they can’t make objective decisions when it comes to their dating lives?
It’s not their fault they have a crush or are in love.
We’ve all known someone who was BLINDLY in love with someone right?
According to Warren Buffet – the most successful investor in the world with a net worth of 143 billion dollars – the #1 reason why investors lose money is because their emotions blind them to make smart financial decisions. Fun fact: The same applies to dating… most guys fail with women because they aren’t objective enough in their dating life. A man can’t solve a logical problem with an emotional decision.
I never thought of using my analytical skills and my ‘cold’ German background for dating before:
I’m a certified financial engineer…
I’m very analytical and logical…
I’m German…
I’m the opposite of romance and seduction.
And even though my dating-life suffered for years, I turned my weakness into my strength nevertheless:
For 14 months, I spent at least 5 hours a day (more on weekends) talking to women in the streets of Düsseldorf and I kept track of all my discoveries in a daily journal.
I skipped my uni classes, had no job, and lived off the money I got from scholarships and loans.
I was able to coldly analyze hundreds of dating interactions to find the most recurring patterns.
I realized the mistakes most men make, why they repel women, and what exactly a man must say and do instead…
My clients are living proof of this and they’re the true heroes here. I showed them the path but they mustered the courage to take action to achieve their dating goals.
To see what my clients and their wives say about me: click here
But I’m getting ahead of myself.
Let’s step back to the time I was talking to women and kept track of what I’d learned in my daily journal.
After 14 months of trial and error, my friends were getting impressed by my discoveries…
I could finally get women to say “yes” to me consistently when I’d ask them out.
And it wasn’t just a fake yes anymore; they really, deeply, and absolutely wanted to go out with me.
I’d receive messages like this constantly:
She can’t wait to see me and show me her new Stewardess Uniform.
One day I woke up and realized...
Women were now chasing me... It became my new life and my friends started asking me how I did it...
One day I woke up and realized... Women were now chasing me... It became my new life and my friends started asking me how I did it...
Women started noticing me WITHOUT saying a word…
All kinds of women…
From stewardesses to lawyers to massage therapists…
I was finally able to attract a beautiful woman almost anywhere and anytime.
In fact, women started to call me the German Dating Engineer, whenever I talked about dating.
For example…
I’ve discovered a unique message that makes almost any woman interested in you.
Don’t take my word for it though, just try it:
Click here and you’ll be forwarded to a page to receive my proven Conversation Starter Template where you’ll find the message.
This message alone will make you stand out from other guys… including the jerk she may be in love with right now… but who’ll never treat her as well as you do.
I still remember this story…
This model-looking girl mocked me when I told her I'd figured out women... But of course, she was speechless after we had sex at my place...
Afterwards…
Valerie, asked me about why I understand women so well?
So I told her everything I’ve been through.
She was impressed.
All of a sudden, Valerie mentioned her cousin – a genuine nice guy who has a crush on a girl from his office – and asked if I could just give him some tips.
I agreed since I was in the same position not so long ago.
I texted him exactly what to say and what to do the next time he sees her…
A week later, he’d asked her out and she said yes!
Valerie was so happy for him that she told me I should make a career out of it.
I thought it was a stupid idea at first…
But after seeing me go on dates with attractive women, my best friend begged me to show him how to do the same…
So I summarized my notes from all these months of trial and error and turned my discoveries into efficient step-by-step systems that help you to attract & keep the woman you want (even if you’ve been too afraid to talk to girls in the past… or even if you’re still a virgin).
I called it Efficient Dating Systems made in Germany…
The foundation that my systems are built upon.
Some coaches will probably copy my methods later on…
I always like to buy from the original but it’s up to you. I’m sure you can find cheaper coaches as well. But I only care about efficiency.
And efficiency has a price, right?
My grandfather Ben always told me it’s better to buy the original Volkswagen Beetle at full price than it is to buy a cheap copy and then pay for constant repairs.
You may save money today but it’ll cost you stress, time, and a lot more money tomorrow.
So I shared my discoveries with my best friend Phong…
Phong was so happy to finally go on dates with women he actually liked.
In fact, he was so happy he offered me money for all my help…
It worked not just for me but also for my best friend… He started to get the same results once I showed him exactly what to do… Phong told me he has a feeling he attracts women automatically while talking to them. And he was surprised that women keep staring at him…
Once it worked for my best friend, I started to share my Systems with men all around the world.
I’ve been coaching clients in person for over 10 years.
For almost a decade…
I had no website, no YouTube channel, or any other online presence. The only way for me to make a living was if clients referred other men to me.
So I made sure my teachings are efficient in getting clients the long-term results they’re looking for.
8 years before I started building my online presence.
Timo applied what I taught him and went from shy guy with crippling approach anxiety to regularly getting phone numbers and dates.
What worked for Timo back then will also work for you today…
For years, many of my clients really tried to convince me to make my knowledge accessible to the public.
But I never had the time to do it because I was too busy with in-person coaching.
Then the coronavirus pandemic hit and while it was a shock at first, I saw it as an opportunity to finally make my knowledge available to as many guys as possible.
Covid and my clients inspired me to finally share my discoveries outside my private practice.
So why am I sharing my Efficient Dating Systems
made in Germany with you?
So why am I sharing my Efficient Dating Systems made in Germany with you?
I have a confession to make:
When I was a kid, my English teacher always called me a loser for struggling in her class. And because of that I started to seek approval not just from her but from any woman.
So every time when I was rejected by a girl, I felt like a total failure.
I wish I had a time machine to share all my discoveries with my younger self… without spending a decade being rejected by girls to figure out what really works.
If I have a son I’ll teach him my Efficient Dating Systems made in Germany.
Sadly, time travel doesn’t exist and I don’t have a son yet.
But I can still help other men avoid the pain I felt…
I wish someone would’ve helped me when I was trying to find a girlfriend.
That’s why I love the feeling of clients telling me about their success stories after using my Systems.
It feels great to make a living by changing someone’s life for the better…
My client Ken met a girl using my Efficient Dating Systems while on holidays and couldn’t wait to tell me about it.
You won’t see me wearing a Rolex, driving a Lamborghini, or in a Youtube video with a bunch of girls around me (all paid actors of course).
That’s because I’m a regular guy, just like you.
Helping men gives me more than enough satisfaction and I’m not looking to make millions.
Your success is my job and a German takes his job very seriously.
Let me help you attract & keep the woman you want...
Even if you’re smart and even if you already got results, doesn’t mean you can’t evolve and learn new things:
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Your Efficient Dating Advisor,
Herman The German
