How to turn on a woman: 5 ways to instantly get her in the mood

How do you turn on a man? 

Show him a naked woman.

How do you turn on a woman? 

Well…

Showing her a naked man won’t do the trick. Women’s sexuality is far more complicated than ours.

However…

If you understand how to turn on a woman, it’s actually a straightforward process. 

So, in the next few minutes, you’ll discover the 5 fastest ways to turn a girl on. 

Let’s get right into it:

1. Whispering in her ear (most women can’t get enough of it)

This one might sound weird.

But depending on the situation, it’s one of the best things you can do that turns women on. 

Here are a few examples:

Let’s say you’re on a date at some coffee place. You talk to each other, share stories, and it’s going well. Now, instead of talking like you would normally do, say something like: 

“What I’m about to tell you is kind of a big secret of mine… so I’ll just tell it to you.”

And you move closer and start to whisper in her ear. 

If you think that’s too much, then that’s ok. 

Eventually, you’ll get comfortable doing such things. So let’s look at another, more comfortable environment for whispering: 

The nightclub. 

If you’re talking with a woman inside a club, it’s totally normal to lean in closer. Otherwise, she can’t hear you due to the loud music. But what most men do wrong is not positioning their lips towards her ears while leaning in. 

Or, if standing next to her, they often tend to lean in closer while looking in the same direction as the woman… But you should look at her and get closer (if you can, look in her eyes)… because this way, you build the most sexual tension. 

2. Light touching to increase her sexual desire

Women naturally have more erogenous zones than men. 

Plus, they have more nerve endings in their sexual organs. So it’s no surprise that physical touch plays a huge factor in turning women on. But it’s extremely important that she feels comfortable with your touch. 

Because… 

If she is uncomfortable with you touching her, nothing more will ever happen.

So gradually your touching.

How do you do that? 

Give her a hug the first time you meet her on a date. Then, sit next to her when you’re drinking a coffee together. This way, it’ll be way easier for you to gradually increase the touching. 

Simply start touching her shoulder or her hands lightly as you’re talking. 

Then touch her legs or knees… 

But always look for her reaction.

If she feels uncomfortable, back off. 

Don’t force it. 

Just keep in mind that if she’s resistant to your touch, it doesn’t mean she’s not interested. In most cases, it just means she’s not ready yet. Keep talking and try again later.

Because if you don’t touch her at all, she’ll start thinking: “Does he not like me?

Is something wrong with me?”

So touch is super important to turn a woman on. 

And don’t worry if you’re too nervous to touch her during a date. It’s completely normal to overthink this at the beginning. The best tip I can give you in this situation is to simply admit you feel nervous.

For example, you could say: 

“I’ll be honest. I really want to take your hand, but I’m too nervous to just do it.”

3. How to turn on a woman through eye contact

You’ve probably heard this before: 

“The eyes are the windows to the human soul.” 

But what does that really mean? 

The reason why eye contact is so effective is that it can create sexual tension almost immediately. 

Sounds like magic, right?

Because it is…

Once you know how to use it correctly. 

But most guys do it wrong. 

They tend to look at her eyes for a few seconds, and as soon as it starts feeling ‘awkward,’ they turn their heads away.

The real problem isn’t that it feels awkward. 

But rather that you don’t feel comfortable with the tension that builds up once you hold eye contact for an extended time. 

So when you’re talking with a girl, try to hold eye contact for a little longer than usual. Trust me, just a few minutes will make all the difference in the world. And the more you practice, the more comfortable you’ll feel. 

This will give you a huge advantage over other guys since most of them can’t hold eye contact very long. 

And she’ll think you’re really confident because you’re able to hold intense eye contact.

To get the maximum effect, combine it with…

4. Talking slowly to trigger sexual arousal

If you want to turn a woman on, you need to work on the way you talk. 

Here’s a fun experiment you can do. 

The next time you talk to someone, try waiting a few seconds before you answer. 

Just count to 5 in your head. 

In most cases, the person you’re speaking to will continue talking before a single word leaves your lips.

The reason for that is the same as with eye contact. People feel uncomfortable with silence, especially on a date. Yet, if you’d practice being comfortable with it, a lot of things would change.

For example, most guys always think about what to say next to avoid that awkward silence on a date… 

But if you pause for a few seconds and look her in the eyes, you create powerful sexual tension. 

In fact, most women would react to that by looking away or starting talking to reduce the tension. I can’t tell you how often I was sitting on a date, and the woman was basically doing all the talking. 

All of a sudden, that ‘awkward silence’ became my ally because I knew if I did it right, she’d start blushing.

Side tip: Women associate how you talk with your ability to perform oral sex. 

For them, when you speak slowly, it’s a sign that you must be good in bed. 

Because you don’t rush things but instead take your time.

5. Make her feel relaxed and comfortable

She needs to trust you before sleeping with you.

And trust is not only important for the first time you have sex, but for your entire relationship.

You see, not all women can experience an orgasm while having sex with their man. Research shows that almost half of them either don’t orgasm or complain about not orgasming enough through intercourse. So if you want to help her reach an orgasm and think of you as the best lover she ever had, help her let go and be present in the moment.

For women, according to famous sex researcher Alfred Kinsey, pleasure is about being able to relax as they’re exposed to more risk during sex.

Namely, pregnancy. 

And the way you make her feel comfortable is by building an emotional connection. 

Of course, there are times a woman you’ve just met wants to hop in bed with you and do wild things… but more often than not, you need to first establish a solid connection. 

Your Efficient Dating Advisor,

Herman The German