Where to meet women (aside from clubs and online dating)

All it takes is one pill. 

I’m not talking about viagra. 

But I’m sure you watched or heard about the film “Limitless.” 

In this movie, the main actor takes a pill to drastically increase the capabilities of his mind. 

Usually, you can only access around 10% of your full brain power. 

But by just popping a pill, he was able to access 100% of it. 

Basically, becoming a genius for several hours… doing things most people would never be able to do. Reaching a state where no one could keep up. 

When it comes to the question of where to meet women, it’s kind of the same. Most guys try their luck by doing things like everyone else. But barely does anyone explore options outside the norm.

So just like in the movie, you can be limitless in your options to meet women. Whereas most other guys will only use the 10%, namely, online dating and their social circle… or if they’re drunk enough, the club. 

With that being said, here’s your dating pill to limitless ways to meet women.

(Read on an empty stomach only). 

1. The Gay Hairdresser Hack

Don’t let this title fool you.

The fact is: most gay guys have many hot female friends. 

And they know which of them is single and looking to meet someone.

So…

The Gay Hairdresser Hack is simply about befriending your gay hairdresser or any other gay guy. One of my clients used this hack by befriending a waiter at a sushi restaurant.

He simply cracked some jokes and asked for his details before he left the restaurant. Within one week, the waiter invited him to join a karaoke party with a bunch of women.

So how can you befriend a gay guy and enrich your social circle with single women (even if you think you’re not funny)?

The best way is to do him a favor. Offering a helping hand. Making him feel good for a minute or two…

Just kidding. 

I mean, genuinely help him with something. Psychology says that if you help a person out in any way, this person is more likely to return the favor.

There are two ways to do this:

• Listen to what he says: Eventually, he will start telling you about a problem of his. Once he does, connect him to someone who can help him.
• Solve his problem yourself. Offer your help for free without him asking for it.

For example, you could improve his website if you have the skills.

Or…

Even easier, offer to give him a testimonial for his shop. 

And if you want to go the extra mile…

Offer him a video or picture that goes with your testimonial for his social media accounts.

In the end, there are many things you can do.

But just remember: don’t pretend. If you don’t click with him, there’s no need to force yourself to be his friend. Only do this when you think you might enjoy hanging out with him. 

Now…

Once you helped him, transition the conversation toward women and dating.

How?

Just say something like: “It’s really hard to meet someone nowadays.”

Don’t mention the word “women.” Just let the conversation naturally evolve because you’ll end up talking about girls anyway. And once this happens, he’ll offer his help.

(Note: it’s important that he suggests helping you on his own. Don’t force it!)

Give this a try, and you’ll be amazed. I promise.

2. Joining groups and classes (not what you think)

HOLD ON. 

I know there are a lot of articles saying you should join yoga classes or other activities that are flooded by women. 

But I’m here to tell you: Don’t do that!

Instead, visit a class or join a group you‘d enjoy. Because otherwise, the only thing you’ll get out of it is the resistance of “having to go there”. 

And I don’t know about you, but I’d rather not rip my pants and squeeze my balls trying to do the splits just to get to know a woman or two after a painful Yoga class.  

So here’s what you can do:

Go on Facebook or meetup.comand look for groups that suit your interests. For example, I used to join hiking trips on meetup.com. I basically combined sightseeing, working out, and meeting women at the same time. Talk about efficiency. 

But there are many other great options. You could go to public speaking events, photography clubs or even join a local cooking group. The options are endless.

As long as it’s something you enjoy, just try.

Side tip: You can also give dating apps specialized in connecting you with like-minded women a try. Unlike Tinder, those apps already attract with their marketing message the right women for you:

For example, if you’re a single Christian looking for someone amazing, find an app that can connect you with a woman who shares your faith.

3. Approach girls in the streets 

This is usually the hardest.

And if there‘s one single mistake that guys repeatedly make that kills their success when approaching women, it‘s this:

They‘re trying to hide their nervousness and brag to appear overly confident.

Let‘s take a look at how you should do it instead:

Step #1: Turn off her autopilot

Her first response is to ignore strangers.

So make sure you’re not a threat.

In other words: Make it clear that you’re not a creep or looking for a few pennies for a shot of vodka.

Step #2: Admit the things that are holding you back

Share your thoughts or feelings, especially those holding you back.

Sharing feelings as a man?

You’ll be surprised by what happens once you apply this in real life. It’s not all about the logic, son. Dating is emotional.

Step #3: Make your intentions clear

“What do you want?”

It’s the underlying questions she’s asking herself when you approach. So give her the simple answer, “because you like her.“

‘A reason why’ not only helps you sell more on eBay. Apparently, it also works wonders to build instant trust when hitting on strangers.

Step #4: Introduce yourself

Finish it off by telling your name. 

Now, let‘s put those 4 steps together and see what this could look like in action: 

“Hey, I know it might sound weird [Step 1], and I’m really nervous right now [Step 2], but I think you look really cute, and I’d like to get to know you [Step 3]. Hi, my name is… What’s yours? [Step 4]“ 

Most guys would believe this would make them look weak… or, in layman’s terms: look like a pu**y. Even though it‘s the same technique, movies use to make you feel attached to the main character. 

I cannot stress enough how effective this is compared to memorized pickup lines or other tricks – especially if you‘re shy, feel nervous, or just aren‘t that experienced. 

Just think about it for a second: 

What makes you sympathize with the main character during a movie? 

There is a reason why most stories begin by showing you the daily struggles, the pain, and all the hardships the main character goes through. It sets the foundation for you to actually care about what happens during the rest of the movie to the main character. It’s what makes him relatable.

So how does this apply to dating?

Guess what…

When you approach a woman, she feels nervous – just like you do.

And if you openly share with her that you feel nervous, it helps her relate to you immediately.

All of a sudden, you’re not just a weirdo trying to hit on her. 

You’re now a human being with feelings, just like her. Which makes you equal. And this leads to the conversation that follows flowing much more easily. 

Can you see the power behind that?

And the difference it makes compared to using pickup lines to look smart and fearless.

Just like in a movie, you set up the perfect start to move forward. It‘s one of the biggest advantages of this type of approach and the reason why I‘m teaching it to my private clients. 

Now, let‘s go one step further: 

More often than not, the woman you want to approach won‘t be standing alone, waiting for you to say hi.

So here‘s how you can tweak the above conversation starter to different situations you might face:

4. Approaching a group of 2 girls

Once you approach them using the conversation starter you just learned, look at her friend and say: 

“Do you mind if I talk to your friend for a second?“  

By doing this, you show social intelligence. Plus, if she agrees, you avoid being cockblocked.

5. Approaching a group with one or more guys

Stroke a man’s ego, and he will move mountains for you. 

If you want to meet a woman who’s in male company… speak to the guy first by simply tweaking the conversation starter to something like: 

“Hey, I’m a bit nervous and afraid you’ll punch me, but I’d give all my money to learn how you got a girl like that.” 

Saying this means you assume it’s his girlfriend, which will stroke his ego. The funny thing is, if they are not dating… the woman will always deny that they are together.

And what if it’s his girlfriend?

Well, you might get a tip or two.

6. Approaching a woman with her dad 

You cannot fool him. 

He knows exactly what you’re after. They can read your dirty thoughts in real-time as you look at his daughter. 

So if you want to get past her dad, you need to show him respect first. 

How?

It’s actually similar to the opener for a group with guys:

“Sir, I don’t want to sound disrespectful or get hit in the face, but I think your daughter is incredibly cute, and I’d like to get to know her.“

7. Approaching a woman with her mother

This can’t go wrong.

A mother will always be your best winggirl if you do it right.

Don’t believe me?

Try this: 

“Excuse me, I hope you don’t mind if I talk to your sister…“

She knows you’re full of sh*t, but she’ll feel flattered nonetheless.

For more on starting a conversation, also read: How to approach a woman naturally without fear of rejection.

8. Approaching girls in a coffee place, shop, library, park, etc.

We’re dealing with a more relaxed environment.

This means you’ll have more time, as most women won’t be rushing toward work or appointments.  

So you could just say:

“Hey, I see you’re enjoying your coffee. And I don’t really know what to say. But I think you’re really cute. So I wanted to introduce myself.”

But if you want to get a little fancier and push your comfort zone, how about this: 

Next time you’re in a library… go up to a girl, smack a book on the table, and say: 

“Pssst, not so loud. We’re supposed to be quiet.” 

Yep, this works. 

One of my clients used a similar approach in a restaurant. For context: she was sitting at a table with 5 of her female friends.

His solution?

Since he was too nervous to talk to the whole group, he slipped her a tissue.

That’s what was written on it:

“Will you make me something to eat?

Yes / No / Maybe? – send the answer to [his phone number].”

A few days later, he got a reply:

“Hey, it’s me from [name of the restaurant]. How are you? :)”  

9. Buses, trams, and planes

Approaching women in public transport is something most men are afraid of. 

All eyes will be on you. 

Everyone will be listening. 

And if you get rejected, there is no way to escape. 

You’ll have to stay and wait there until you can get out at the next stop. That’s why most men hesitate to talk to a woman in this kind of scenario. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Of course, you could just use the same conversation starter we already talked about. But you don’t have to be that bold.

Let me show you an alternative. 

A more under-the-radar kind of way. For example, you could just say:

“Sorry, can you help me?”

After you get her attention, take out your smartphone. And show her this note:

“I didn’t want to make a big fuss in front of everyone, but I think you’re cute. Hi, I’m [name].” 

This could easily turn into a game where both of you keep talking over text while sitting next to each other.

Regardless of the approach, this might take a bit of skill to get right. Especially in this kind of scenario, it’s extremely important to keep a friendly vibe. 

10. Approaching girls at work + waitresses

Yikes.

We’ve probably all been there. Having this one girl at work, thinking of ways to flirt with her. But then there’s always the question of HOW?!

And why do I put waitresses in the mix as well?

Because both situations are similar.

In both scenarios, the woman is being watched by her co-workers. So she is worried about becoming the #1 gossip topic of the week.

Plus, if you talk to a waitress in front of your friends, it will just come across as you’re trying to show off.

But I’m stoked to tell you: there’s still a way. 

And if you do this right, the woman will see that your social intelligence is beyond Stephen Hawking’s IQ.

Here’s what you can do:

Before you approach her, write down a note on your smartphone: “Hey, you’re really cute, and I’d like to get to know you better. What’s your WhatsApp number?”

Armed with your note, go up to her and say, “Excuse me, can you help me? I’m not sure if this is correct?”

And show her your note. 

The reason why it’s good: it will look like you’re only asking for help. Plus, after she typed her number into the note, say something like: “Thanks, this is really helpful.”

So even her typing won’t look suspicious to others. 

(Sidenote: It can be easier to ask for her Instagram, as most women feel more comfortable giving it out over their phone number.)

As you can see, none of this is about memorizing lines but rather about understanding principles. This will make you stand out and not sound like all the other guys. 

Your Efficient Dating Advisor,

Herman The German